The Art of The Pickup

Are you ready to learn an amazing way to get a woman's phone number without even asking her verbally?

Have you ever been talking to a woman you were interested in, and not know how to ask for her phone number because you felt nervous or unsure?  Or have you been been having an engaging conversation, maybe flirting a bit, but are still not sure whether she's interested or if she will give you her number without you asking for it?  Whatever the reason  you get "stuck" not knowing how to get her number.  Why?

Many times a man will meet a new woman, have a great conversation, and then never get a chance to see her again because he hesitated to get her contact information for whatever reason - simply for the fact that asking in the first place made him nervous.

Here is a SIMPLE solution for you:

Carry a few small pieces of paper in your pocket and also a pen.  When you get that oh-so-familiar feeling the conversation might be winding down and that voice in your head telling you it's time to get her contact info... rather than say anything, simply pull out the pen and a piece of paper while you're still talking (and remember to do this very casually), write your number on one side of the paper, rip it in 2 pieces (your number on one piece, and the other piece blank), then simply hand both pieces casually to her along with your pen as if it's presumed what she will do.  You do not need to draw attention to this action at all, make it completely casual as if no attention needs to be brought to it.  She will understand the purpose, take the piece with your number, use your pen to write her own number on the blank piece, then hand your pen back to you along with her number, and she will also not need to say a word - the ritual will be understood.  Nothing could be simpler.

This is my favorite way to get a woman's number to follow up with her later!  You will be surprised at how simple yet effective this method is.  Try it today!

~ Jay Valens, Co-Producer of “The Art of the Pickup”

TIP TWO: SEDUCTIVE ATTITUDES

“It is not enough to conquer, one must learn to seduce.”
-Voltaire

I love this quote from the 18th century French author and famous seducer Voltaire, because it holds a lot of wisdom about why most men are successful with women and only a select few are VERY successful.

You see, many men are trying to CONQUER women - attempting to force women to like them by spending money on them or giving them unoriginal gifts.  These men do all the same things and they end up boring women because they don't know how to SEDUCE them.  Why?

The good news is that seduction is something you can LEARN, just as Voltaire implies in his famous quote.

Think about it, men have been seducing women for thousands of years, so if you can even learn just some of the attitudes and techniques that they have used, then you too can be wildly successful with women!

Here are just two of the many attitudes and understandings that you must have to be more successful with women:

“There is an abundance of women in the world.”

Most guys, maybe yourself included, tend to only focus their attention on one woman who they simply can’t get their mind off of.  Usually it’s a woman who is not really interested in them in return.

While it is good to have a focus, the problem is that they act like she is the only woman in the world, and she picks up on this both consciously and unconsciously.  It comes across as needy, and puts her in the position of power to choose you, not the other way around.

It's like economics applied to dating.  If you think the supply of women is small, you will do stupid things like pay too much just to date them.  She will understand she can chose you anytime, and she feels there is no challenge, so she will keep her options open because she knows she can have you anytime she wants and there is no need to hurry.

If instead you realize there really are billions of women in the world, and understand that you can always meet other women at any time, then you will have a more relaxed and powerful attitude that women will pick up on instantly.

“You are the selector when dealing with women.”

Following this logic, you want to reverse the above supply and demand perception so that women understand you are a unique man who chooses women, not the other way around.

Have you ever heard that phrase, “God’s gift to women?”  If you are like me, you were taught by society and friends (women in particular) to avoid ever thinking like this about yourself.  But the secret fact is, this is exactly how you must think in order to be outrageously successful with women.

People want what they can’t have, what they perceive has VALUE.  If you will just understand how to appear as the more valuable catch in your interactions with women, and how to behave like the SELECTOR, you will have that value for women.  You will double, triple, or even QUADRUPLE your success with women instantly!

In the video clip above, the man has both of these attitudes internalized and shows them in his actions with women.  And as someone who used to have absolutely no success with women, but now practices such attitudes in real life, I can tell you without a doubt, they will work for you, too!

“You need to meet women EVERYWHERE”

In order to maximize your opportunities for meeting and dating the kind of women you desire, you have to be ready to meet them everywhere you go.  Think about it, in your everyday life the kind of women you desire are not only found in bars and clubs, but are often in the places you least expect to find them.

The problem is that most guys think it is only acceptable to meet women at bars and clubs or through mutual friends.  And even if they think its OK, they don’t know what to do.

But with the right game plan and the right techniques, you can easily and effectively meet women while walking down the street or buying books, or anywhere else.

And how do I do that you are asking?

“Have a general game plan for meeting women anywhere.”

Here is a quick structure you can use for meeting a woman anywhere:

1. Approach her confidently.
2. Make a humorous comment about something that is relevant to the situation.
3. Talk to her as if she is already somebody you know.
4. After a few minutes, mention that you are busy and tell her it has been nice talking to her.
5. Walk away as if you are leaving, but turn around and mention that it would be nice to continue the conversation again.
6. Use the technique discussed earlier to get her phone number.

In each of the summary scenes in the video clips above, the man has met the woman using some or all of the components of this basic game plan.

OK, once you have a universal game plan for meeting women, you need techniques for effectively following up with women and actually getting them to meet you again.

“Use these two powerful technique from sales to dramatically increase the chances she will meet you again.”

It’s happened to us all before. You have called her and the conversation is going well.  You gather your courage and ask her if she wants to meet you on Saturday and she says “That is really sweet, but I can’t.”

The problem here is that you asked her a “yes or no” question, and she chose “no” because it is easy and she thinks she can always say yes later if she wants.  But once she has chosen not to meet you, it’s like a circuit switches on in her brain that makes it easy to keep saying no to you because she already has.

Salesmen know this, and so they never ask you a “yes or no” question.  Instead they use these two time tested techniques:

Technique 1 - Assume the sale!

I know this principle and still it was used on me recently to get me to buy a subscription to an investment newspaper.  The sales guy called up and launched into the description of his product, asked me some open ended questions about my investment interests and needs.  After I answered them, he enthusiastically said “Great, it sounds like this newspaper meets all those needs!”

He simply assumed I wanted to buy his newspaper.  I didn’t have a chance to tell him I didn’t want to buy because he hadn’t asked me a “yes or no” question about buying.

With a woman you are talking to her on the phone, you can do the same thing when setting up a meeting.  Once you know a little about what she likes, you simply start describing how fun a certain activity is.  When she agrees, you talk about how nice it will be to do that activity together.  When she agrees to that too, you simply assume that means she wants to do it with you.  Then follow up with:

Technique 2 - Close the deal by offering choices that all lead to the sale!

“So would you like to use Visa, Master Card, or Discover?”

When the salesman said these words to me the first thing that popped into my mind was a picture of the credit cards in my wallet, and which would be better to use.  It happened automatically, even though I knew the technique he was using. I wound up buying the subscription and I am really glad I did because what I learned from it helped me to make more money in the stock market!

So let’s apply this technique to setting up the meeting with the woman you have called in the example above.  You have just described the thing you want to do with her and have assumed the sale.  Now just say:

“Great! So would you like to meet on Saturday on Sunday?”

Both choices lead to meeting you, and the unstated fact underlying the statement is that she has already agreed to meet you, now it is just a question of determining when.  You will be amazed how often this works!

Go ahead, start using these and other “Art of the Pickup” techniques and watch your friend’s jaws will drop in amazement when they see how many hot, sexy women you are dating!